The roller coaster of cancer treatment - and recovery
How it can feel when treatment finishes
If you have not had cancer treatment, it can be hard to imagine what it feels like when the day comes for your medical team discharge you. For me they never used the words 'in remission' with Inflammatory Breast Cancer, the best you can hope for is NED - 'No Evidence of Disease'. But I'll take that.
Such mixed emotions, I was happy that the chemotherapy, mastectomy and radiotherapy all appeared to have done the job of getting rid of that disease. My fri…
7 Habits of Confident People
Our mind is a very powerful tool, and the impact of our thoughts and words cannot be underestimated. Confident people have decided to control their minds, and focus on their happiness, rather than being led by their fears.
Confidence is often the difference between people who get what they want and people who don't. Those who think and believe they can do something -- run a marathon, lose weight, get the job or the partner of their dreams, start a business, build a loving and fun social circle…
How to Get out of a Dark Place
It's easy to believe that every day is special when things are going well. Yesterday I had a big disappointment, no need to share the personal details here, but for a while I was very upset, then full of despair as my mind began thinking of all the worst case scenarios that could ensue from this event.
This is despite my years of training in coaching, and learning how to control those pesky unhelpful thoughts, I am only human and I still succumb to negative thinking on occasion. In the past thi…
Can You Stop Worrying in a World That Is Getting Crazier by the Day ?
How are you? If you are from England like me, your instinct is probably to reply 'I'm fine thanks'. That's good manners right? And as a recovering people pleaser, I always want to be polite.
But really - how are you? I want to know.
I’m asking because there is so much uncertainty in the world right now, and a lot of people I talk to are struggling.
We’ve been living in turbulent times these past two years. It’s no surprise if you’re feeling shaken.
When you’re surrounded by circumstances yo…
10 steps to go from overwhelmed to calm
More and more of us are feeling overwhelmed. With all that is going on in the world, and trying to keep on top of our lives, it can sometimes just all get too much. No matter how great we get at delegating, how successful our time management strategies or how many hours we have in our week.
Whatever your specific context, these 10 tried and tested steps are designed to move you from total meltdown, to feeling calm and focused as smoothly as possible.
So, next time overwhelm strikes,…
And may all your Easter eggs be 70% cacao. There’s plenty of evidence to suggest that dark chocolate is good for you, and so you can munch away without even a scintilla of guilt.
Dark chocolate is especially good for regulating blood pressure and cholesterol, and it’s an antioxidant that’s rich in fibre, iron, magnesium, and copper.
Chocolate won’t be the only thing you’ll be eating over Easter that can give your health a boost. To demonstrate the point, the Center for …
My #1 Effective Tool to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
My #1 Effective Tool to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
I was talking with a coaching client yesterday, and she said something that I have heard so many times.
‘I don’t feel like I am worthy of love’
Wow – that phrase is something I could relate to all too well. As a survivor of abuse, and many challenges in my life, there have been times when I felt exactly like that. So how did I overcome this? Well, I tried many things over many years, but what was the most effective tool which helped me to stop…
How do you move forward when treatment ends?
Do you feel like you have the ‘sword of Damocles’ hanging over you?
Are you struggling to feel happy that you have survived cancer?
When you finish treatment it can be like the safety net has been taken away.
The healthcare professionals wave you goodbye. Your friends and family breathe a sigh of relief that it is ‘all over’. You may feel exhausted, confused and anxious. But everyone expects you to be happy.
The "sword of Damocles" is a modern expression, which to us means a sense of impendi…
Coping Mechanisms That Support Not Hurt You
Hello, my friend and Happy New Year!
You don’t need me to tell you —what’s happening in the world is increasing our stress levels day by day. We’re collectively facing fear, uncertainty, loneliness, and grief as we witness and experience the pain happening around us.
And on top of that, we don’t have access to all our usual comforts and coping mechanisms, like grabbing a coffee or lunch with a friend, enjoying a live band, or sweating it out at the gym. As a result, we may end up reaching for …
What Is Scanxiety? Tips for Reducing Your Fears and Worries
Anyone who has had a cancer diagnosis will be monitored regularly, even after we finish treatment, it is common to be classed as NED (No evidence of Disease) rather than ‘cured’ or ‘in remission’. It is completely normal to be apprehensive about tests, and find yourself being moody or preoccupied, or simply feeling out of control. Increased heart rate, irritability, sweaty palms, and nausea are all common symptoms that people can exper…