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Is Social Media A Force for Good ?

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It's hard to imagine life without social media now, but what is it always good for us?

Almost subconsciously we’ve become used to spending a lot of time on social media or on the internet in general. The internet can be a great source of information, so much as our fingertips, it’s so easy if you don't know something to go and Google that,it's become, for me, certainly just something that is a constant source of information. I remember when I was studying years ago, I would spend days in th…

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Unity and Support after a cancer diagnosis

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One of the mistakes I see people making is assuming that all cancer support groups are full of wonderful people without their own problems, giving sound advice, and there is some of that. But of course people are not perfect but hopefully trying to help.

Support for me means meeting people where they are, without judgement, and helping them on whatever path they are on.

Years ago, our ancestors lived in tribes, and belonging was literally a matter of life or death, you relied on your t…

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Overwhelm - and lessons from dogs!

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It's something that I hear so often. More and more people that I speak to are feeling overwhelmed, just far too much to do. What can you do if you're feeling overwhelmed?

If your life feels out of control, you might want to think about making some changes. Or perhaps lots of changes.

But how do you make those changes? Life after cancer treatment, or life in midlife for anyone can be a time for reflection, thinking about what's working well in your life, and what is just not working for you, yo…

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Are your beliefs helping you to recover?

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What Is a Belief?

A belief is something we consider to be a fact. It is anything that we assume to be true. We use our beliefs to understand and navigate this world. We also use our beliefs to keep us safe. That is why we generally try to preserve our beliefs after they are formed and guard them carefully.

Our beliefs and values can shape the way we see the world. It is said we don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you'…

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Forgiveness - for yourself and for others

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Forgiveness

 It's a subject that comes up time and time again, when people are maybe struggling with something. I’d like to share some thoughts with you.

Louise Hay

Louise is one of my favourite authors, a very inspirational woman. She wrote a wonderful book called ‘ You can heal your life’ that I would highly recommend. This is one of the most profound books I have ever read, it literally changed my life.

Louise says, quite often if we get stuck in life, it's because we have some forgiven…

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Feeling Triggered after Cancer Treatment Ends

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Feeling Triggered After Cancer Treatment Ends

Quite often people will say after cancer treatment ends, ‘I was thought I was doing really well, and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, boom! - an event, or something in the news will shake me, and take me back to a dark place’

A couple of things have happened this week that have really made me reflect on this. And first one was the death of somebody I didn’t know and had never met, Jacqueline Gold an amazing woman who was in the public eye, w…

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Resilience - the ability to cope with and recover from setbacks

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Resilience - an essential tool for Life After Cancer

What can you do when life knocks you back? Is it possible to learn to thrive in the face of adversity?

I've got some tips for you on that. Secondly, I'm going to be talking about reframing events that happen in your life. That means  looking at things that have happened to you in a different way, and taking away the lessons, the learning, or maybe just an alternative point of view of some of the things that may have knocked you back in lif…

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Relationships after a cancer diagnosis

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Relationships after a cancer diagnosis

At the risk of stating the blindingly obvious, once you receive a cancer diagnosis, your life is changed forever. One of the biggest areas that may change is relationships:

Relationships with your partner, with your friends and family, and quite often – the relationship you have with yourself.

Close relationships

So first of all, thinking about your intimate relationship with your partner, whether you're in a marriage, or you've got a close relationsh…

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How to Get a Good Night's Sleep

How to get the best sleep

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Why do we need sleep? Why is it so important for us? Does it really matter if you don't get enough sleep, surely you can just catch up later?

Creating the right environment for your best sleep.

I'm going to suggest to you things have worked for me, but we're all different. So you pick and choose what works for you. I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to invite you to think about the things that you're doing and whether they are serving you well. And the last thing is just som…

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Is your job making you sick?

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Is your job making you sick?

Not in a physical sense, unless your job is manual and hurting your body, I'm thinking about our mindset and how we feel about work.

So what can you do if you feel that you're stressed? What can you do if you feel that your job is not helping you, or actually making you sick?

Unfortunately this is all too common in my experience.

My work history, like a lot of people is that I fell into a finance job when I was very young, I found that I was good at it and quite …

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